Headache

I over think constantly.  Over think everything.  If there is a subject with two possible opinions, I'll find at least three.  Then I'll think about all three.  Re-evaluate all three.  Then reduce it to two, re-think, and then leave it alone and let me decision come about in some much more organic way.  In other words when I am forced to make a decision.

It frustrates people in my life.  Someone comes to me with some issue, and people are normally looking for someone to agree with their opinion.  We always say we want an "honest" opinion, but we don't.  We want agreement.  And more than agreement you want someone to actively take your side.

So I know how frustrating it is when I don't immediately agree with something that someone brings me.  I'll think about it from the "other" side - not be argumentative, but I like to try and understand how another perspective can view a situation.  Then I come up with all these other variations on the theme, which most likely no one else wants to hear.  Does that make me a good friend? bad friend? or no friend at all?

No wonder I have a lot of headaches.